In a previous post HERE, I waxed poetic on the subject of dream killers, and quickly covered the reasons behind some of the different types of dream killers. I mainly pointed out the “external” dream killers and a simple way to overcome them and move on with our vision… Need a quick reminder? You will find (below) an extract from the article on the Dream killers shared with you a few days ago.

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“So what if you encounter any of these so-called dream killers?
Just put your blinders on. Let them judge and say whatever they want, but don’t argue. Don’t try to convince them, because you will never succeed. Let it go in one ear and out the other. Your best revenge is to get to work, doing what your heart, dreams, and mind are set on! Let your actions speak louder than your words.”

See, that’s actually the easy part when dealing with dream killers… Anything we can see in the “physical” world, we can pretty much fight and vanquish. It’s not as easy though, when it comes to that inner voice that tells you in a very quiet yet resounding tone that “You cannot do it”. That inner voice that asks you: “What if you fail?” That inner voice that always tries to convince you that “So and so tried and failed; what makes you think that YOU can!?” – That same resounding inner voice that makes you believe that “It’s getting so tough… Are you really cut out for this!?”

Yes, our number one and most dangerous dream killer is ourself; more specifically, our thoughts. The negative and most doubtful ones! The ones that play the most frequently and the loudest in our mind and that are easily fueled by the discouraging words and actions of the naysayers…

Let’s face it, the tumultuous times, just like the negative and defeating thoughts are going to come at one point; especially when the going gets tough, when business slows down, or simply when we get rejections… This is the very moment to safeguard your mind! Only feed your mind positive, encouraging, and empowering thoughts! And do this especially when you’re by yourself… You know what they say, “when you’re with others, watch your words, but when you’re by yourself, watch your thoughts!”.

Many would agree that the overflowing thoughts we have just relate to the importance of the endeavor we’re taking on. However, this process should be a balance of both positive and negative thoughts… the Pro & Con though process… the “hope for the best and plan for the worst” thought process. Unfortunately, as mentioned earlier, the negative ones play the loudest and overpower the positive ones.

However, as far as I’m concerned, the solution is quite simple. The same way we would beat the external dream killers (by changing their negative words and actions into fuel and motivation), we need to change our mindset so that the negative thoughts are sent automatically to the back of our mind. The positive, encouraging, and empowering ones have to always come up on top. “Progress is impossible without change; and those who cannot change their mind cannot change anything!”

Let’s change our mind, so we can progress past our inner dream killers… and accomplish great things!

Let’s change our minds to “I’m well able”, “All I set out to do, I can and will do!”, “No one can understand my vision as much as me or better than me!”, “I am my greatest asset!”, “This is my dream; I believe it and I’ll see it to fruition!”

Inhale confidence… Exhale doubt! Think like a winner! BE A WINNER!

“The reflection you see in the mirror is an image and a reflection of God. Remember who you are! if you ever need assurance of who you are or what you are made of, go and look in the mirror!”

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As I reminisce on this previously shared blog content (photos included in this article) of a few years ago, that recently popped out on my Facebook newsfeed as “memory post”, I come to realize how important it is to stay focused on your journey, no matter what the distractions might be and I thought I would share a little insight on the subjet of… Dream killers.

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Now I could let these dream killers kill my self-esteem. Or use my arrogance as the steam to power my dreams… I ain’t play the hand I was dealt, I changed my cards, I prayed to the skies and I changed my stars”~ Kanye West, Last Call. 

Dream killers are the people in your life who don’t believe in you. They don’t think you can do things you vouched to do. They question the validity of your goals. They think you’re a “dreamer”.

Dream killers tend to highlight your missteps instead of acknowledging your accomplishments. Dreams killers are everywhere and usually, they are “your people”.  They are people you know very well and maybe, people you even count on.

When we take the random internet thug who doesn’t know you from a mile out of the picture, typical dream killers are often friends, or old friends, co-workers, and even family members. You know the people who kill your vibes and will never encourage you to take on a new challenge? The people who will tell you they love and wish you well, but are never happy or never there to support you when you’re actually doing something you like, that may lead to the success they wished you? These are dream killers. Learn to recognize them and be prepared, because you will, at some point in your life encounter them. Fear not, but be prepared, because they’re literally going to try to kill your dream.

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So what if you encounter any of these so-called dream killers? Just put your blinders on. Let them judge and say whatever they want, but don’t argue. Don’t try to convince them, because you will never succeed. Let it go in one ear and out the other. Your best revenge is to get to work, doing what your heart, dreams, and mind are set on! Let your actions speak louder than your words.

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Now here’s the ticker: Dream killers don’t necessary mean bad or ill. They are not necessarily people that don’t love you. Remember, they can be friends or family members, your mom, dad, or siblings. They are people that just “kill your vibes” whether it is deliberate or not.

They are the naysayers. Maybe they really don’t believe you can do it. Maybe they’re worried about you or scared for you. Maybe they couldn’t do it themselves; Maybe they can’t see a brighter future for themselves so ultimately they’re projecting their insecurities and failures onto you. Maybe they’re jealous or envious. Or maybe they just want to see you take a different path. Whether they mean to or not, they are still dream killers and you shouldn’t let them distract you from your purpose. Dream killers could be a distraction.

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“Starve your distractions and feed your focus!” Daniel Godeman

Distractions will come your way. They will come in many shapes and forms…  Be smart and alert. Learn to recognize them and most importantly, learn to starve them. Don’t let them entertain you. Stay focused and keep your eyes on the prize.

My blogging and entrepreneurship journey has been and still is full of distractions. Had I fed them or paid them any mind, I wouldn’t have made it this far. I still have a long way to go, and I’m not even near where I want to be, but I’m grateful for where I am.

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I know my paths are and will probably always be paved of dream killers, and I will not allow them to kill my vibe. I had people asked me: “Are you still doing that blogging thing?” Some would say “Wow… So, you didn’t quit, huh!? … Me to answer – Yes, I am still doing it; and I’m actually doing great and even more than just that… This is not me bragging. I’m simply stating that I know what I want and I claim it; and no dream killers will tell me otherwise!

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Have you ever wondered why strangers or people you barely know would support you more than your own folks? – I believe it’s quite simple. Sometimes, your own folks have a hard time accepting that you came from the same place as them; place where they’re still while they can clearly see you (by your mindset, thinking and actions) successfully growing out of and leaving behind.

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“Do you know why strangers support you more than your own folks? Your own folks have a hard time accepting that you came from the same place they’re still stuck in!” 

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You will hear and read that success is about hard work. Granted, it is! However, keep in mind that success has even more to do with  your mentality. Your mindset is the key. You got to have a strong mind if you want to succeed in anything in life. Whether it’s in your career, wheight loss, marriage… You’re going to have a strong mindset. What you allow to ruffle your feathers matters. The negative thoughts you allow to permeate your mind. The negative people you surround yourself with, who would discourage you and throw you off-course play a crucial role in your success story. Choose your “entourage” wisely and quickly eliminate any negative thoughts (and thing) that may endangered your success.

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Believe in yourself and your ability to make things happen. Trust your gut and follow your heart. Listen to your intuition. Work hard toward your goals and walk in your lane. Surround yourself with positive people – People that will build you up. People that support you and genuinely want the best for you. People who will scold you behind closed doors and deaf ears when you’re “acting up”, but will defend you out in the open when you’re being judged or wronged… because there has to be a balance.

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When you find these people, cherish them, because they are your tribe! What of the dream killers? Ignore them! Love them if you have to, but ignore them! Like who they are, not what they represent… Don’t let them take you off your path. Your career or success depends on it. Keep working hard and let your success speak for you. Maybe one day, just maybe… They will catch on and ask you how you did it… And as my better half says, “those who doubted you and said you cannot do it are still watching… Make sure to put on a good show!” 

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5-reasons-why-i-love-monday TGIM friends, I hope you had a fantastic weekend and a great start to the week. I’ve heard countless times how “Mondays” suck; and to be honest with you, I’m one of the few people that actually love Monday. I don’t personally think Mondays suck, however I do see why most people don’t care for it and if you’re one of them, keep reading. I’m sharing with you today my two cents on the matter.    monday-motivation-why-you-is-monday-prodcutive 1 – It’s just another day of the week See, this may sound cliché, but the truth is society makes a huge deal out of Monday being the day everybody fears to see. I’m not going to lie, and say Monday is my most favorite day of the week. Certainly not; but I see it as just another day.  Another day to  live, love, work and… play. I see how it can be daunting to see the day that precedes the fun and activity-filled days (weekend) as the “party pooper” if I can put it this way, because it’s a start of a work week; but for me, that’s just life and there’s always going to be a party pooper, and there’s always going to be a Monday. You must as well, accept this fact and make it work for you. Think positive!

2- It’s a fresh new start I love the chance of a new start. It gives me hope and strength to keep going and get things done or to get things right. Do you recall that feeling when it’s your birthday, when it’s the beginning of a new year, when the month is ending and we’re about to see another one? That feeling of a new start, new opportunities, new and more blessings…? That’s exactly how you should also feel when you think of Monday. The excitement to put another ounce of work toward your goals, the purpose-driven attitude and eagerness to make things happen, the hope to get it right this time. These should be good enough reasons why you should love Mondays. The past week hasn’t been so bright, or it was very overwhelming, because you had a lot on your plate, whether it’s at work, at home, or with your clients or whatever else your days are occupied with. You, maybe, get to rest, regroup and refresh though the weekend… and there comes Monday…again. Well, Hello Monday! Think of it as a fresh new start, my friends and make it count! 

3- It’s another day to be grateful for Think of it this way: You are well and alive and some people are battling or fighting for their life at this very moment. Some, on the other hand, didn’t make it through Sunday to see this day. There’s a lot going in the world that we can’t even wrap our head around. Be grateful and thank the higher power, or the universe for the simple fact that you’re seeing another beautiful day. You know what, life is even more fun and rewarding when we count our blessings!

4- It’s the most productive day of the week According to a study conducted by the staffing firm Accountemps, while some people will argue that Tuesday is the most productive day of the week, Monday would be considered the most productive day by a great percentage of human resources managers. Whether you’re working for yourself or for someone else, a productive day equal greater results and great feeling of accomplishment. Monday can be productive because most people tackle it with “The weekend is over, now back-to work” attitude! Many workers would spend their day trying to catch up on the previous week and plan the week ahead. I believe that when you hit your week with a great start, you will most likely not only have a productive day, but also a productive week.

5- “Do what you love to do and you will never work another day in your life” Now before you jump on my throat and try to argue with me on how misleading or false this statement is, let me tell you that I totally understand where you’re coming from. Yes, this sentiment is an all-time constant. We’ve heard or read it somewhere; we even repeated it to our younger folks or adults peers in times of motivation or encouragement. The truth is, it’s not the truth! You can do what you love and still put tremendous work in it. In fact you should, in order to see the amazing results you are looking for, put a lot of effort in on daily basis. Work isn’t play and no matter what you do as “work”, it’s just that: “work”! So what are you saying about that statement, you’d ask me. Now hear me out. The way I personally understand this statement isn’t necessary or exactly how you are reading through the lines, even if that’s what it is. We all have a different understanding on most things and that’s fine. The way I do perceive this, works for me and I’m going to ask you to see it that way as well. Who knows, you have nothing to loose, but mind you, you may gain a bit of something before you leave my blog today, or so I hope. 🙂  Do what you do and you will never work another day in your life, because when you enjoy what you do, you don’t consider it “work”. Even though it’s paying the bill or it’s going to pay for the much needed vaccation you’re planning, you don’t make it sound like a chore, if you love what you do. You don’t consider things you enjoy doing, work. You don’t complain about it. If you breathe it, you live it, you love it and are passionate about it, it becomes your way of life. It becomes fun, or even recreational as opposed to a duty or a “job”. Here, I’ll throw in the example of a bodybuilder… or in my very own personal case, a fashion stylist! 😉 Live what you love! Do you have a love or hate story with Mondays? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!  Thanks for reading; and please share this insights with others. Someone needs to read this. 😉

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Having just to turn the page on a month that has been very hectic for me, I look back and realize that the last few weeks were far from being a walk in the park. Gosh, I’m not complaining, because God knows how grateful I am for the blessings and even the lessons. However, having to treat myself to a mini-spa in the comfort of my own home, to unwind and refresh when I needed it the most, was one of the most rewarding things I’ve actually done to ease the burden of the tiredness.

With the ended month being one in which we celebrated the International Women’s Day, we all chanted and praised the bricks of foundations, women are posing everyday all around the world, but there’s one question we women need to ask ourselves… How I’m treating myself? How am I taking care of myself? Reality is most women (and men) are out there caring for their loved ones and even strangers, working diligently to make the world a better place, but they have zero time and consideration in treating themselves. They just don’t! But the matter of the fact is, you must treat yourself, and you must do it unapologetically! 

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This is not a selfish act, but in fact a self-love gesture toward your own psychosomatic health. If you don’t care for yourself, treat yourself to a whatever you love doing that will benefit not only your body, but your entire being, how well do you think you can take care of your loved ones in the long term? The thing is, well often, we think unproportionally big or out of our means and needs. The luxury trip to the 5-star salon or hotel, for example, may be your ideal “treat yourself” moment; and if you can afford that, hey girl, you totally deserve it! But, what if you can’t? Well, that’s where you call in your imagination; – A very simple one actually –  and If you don’t have your mini-spa essentials ready, a quick trip to a nearby store should do the trick… Lucky me, Soap And Glory and Boohoo were kind enough to send me some products and items which tended to my own mini-spa moment!  

While I was home alone sans the kids, I had a “Eureka!” moment. Maybe it wasn’t that big of “Eureka!” situation, but grant it, the unnerving and exciting idea of pampering myself was quite enchanting. So I decided to treat my face to a Soap And Glory face mask that was in my goodies package and then I enjoyed a nice, warm, and soothing bath with all the bell and whistles… Yes! You can lit scented candles, add some aromatic or therapeutic oils and petals to your bath, and let an enchanting music of your choice playing in the background. I did; and it was suave and debonair!

Now, what would be a pampering moment without the feel of a soft and smooth skin afterwards? Soap And Glory and Boohoo have come to the rescue again.  It was time to tune in to a re-run of a favorite TV show and pamper myself to a soft baby skin. We all love and yearn for that soft baby skin, don’t we? 

If you haven’t tried Soap And Glory’s ” The Righteous Butter”  and “Hand Food” cream this might be the season to stock up on a couple of those and get your skin ready for the beach and those summer outfit days. Without even a feel to the touch, I appreciated that the scents weren’t overpowering. After my bath, I butter up myself with the Righteous Butter (which is made with softening Shea Butter and Aloe Vera) and it soaked right into my skin and left it smooth and soft.

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I love it; and while I’m working on getting my Summer body ready to show off the bikini ensemble boohoo has sent me along with these pampering products, I might as well, keep treating myself to these mini-spa moments whenever I can. Why? Because I deserve it; and so do you! Treat yourself, girlfriends! 

Cheers to a fabulous week ahead!

Love,

Edwige

” I participated in the “Treat yourself” campaign and these products were sent to me free of charge. All opinions are my own”

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Hey babes! Another week has come and gone. Can you believe we’re wrapping up the third week of January already? Seems like the days just fly by faster and faster! Last week, I shared with you the 6 (plus bonus) things you need to do in order to have a happy and successful year – You can read the full post here. One of the things I believe is an essential habit to adopt for a fabulous year ahead is choosing a word of the year. Being that I’m not a big of a new year’s resolution person, this just speaks to me. I rather live an improving life every day instead of wrapping my mind around the whole “new year, new me” resolutions. Maybe “New Year, Improved Me”? Let’s just say I like that better. Anyway, where does the whole “Word of the year” thing come from? I honestly can’t remember where and how I came across this, but when I did, I knew it was something I wanted to implement in my yearly goals and habits, and quite frankly, it’s working great for me. 

So how does the whole thing work? –  Each year, you chose a word on which you’d want to focus and reflect upon during the new year. It could be a word in regard of something you want to face, beat, or steer away from this year. Some examples: Fear. Procrastinating. Focus. Or something you want to improve or gain. Other examples would be Clarity or Consistency.  Instead of having everything scattered and having to make an empty resolution, the word of the year should help you keep your focus and sanity when you start feeling unorganized and jumping from one thing to another. Obviously, you still want to write down your goals and work toward them, but this one word will be your word of focus to help you discipline yourself in whatever area you need to!

This year, I initially chose the word “Consistency”. We know Consistency in everything we do is a must; Upon some more reflection, I changed it to “Manifest”…

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MANIFEST: Such a strong and powerful word! I wanted to be stronger spiritually and mentally and practice more of the law of attraction… I want to work more toward manifesting or attracting the right things and more awesomeness into my life! It’s been 3 weeks into the new year, and I can only be grateful for all the things I’ve manifested into my life already. Continually praying, meditating, and having positive thoughts even in the midst of the unfortunate situations that may occur, are some of the things I practice daily toward my 2017 word.

So do you have a word of the year? If yes, what is it? If you’re just learning about this, what do you think about this. I’m curious to know your thought. 🙂 

Thanks s much for reading and have a great start to the week. 

Love & Light, 

Edwige 

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